Negative Dynamics in Social Networking Sites (aka MySpace)

I'll start this blog by stating this is not directed to anyone in particular. This is a general observation I have made in regards to a few close -friends- of mine whom seem intent on wrecking each others' relationship/friendship by means of social networking site tools.

Realistically, life is too short to be concerned about who is saying what on MySpace, whether or not you're on someone's top friends' list or what order you come in, and even what their headlines/status message reads. People, it is the internet!

The animosity, indirect insults, or blatant attacks on people through these means fall very short on the list of priorities in our lives. I am sure, as many of you are, that we each have bigger concerns in our lives then what someone is saying about us on some site. It boils down to three simple words: High School Drama.

Come on, many of us left high school behind years ago when we graduated. We've moved on and grown into full fledged adults [I hope] since that time. Why then, are we so intent on falling into the morass of bickering online like school children?

It is pretty interesting to see the psychological accounts it presents, but beyond that, not much else beyond barely sustainable entertaining value. Ask yourself this? Would you really sit there and have a spitting contest in real life? Are you so consumed with the lack of self confidence that you have to monitor and alarm yourself at what someone else is saying or doing? I'm not, personally.

For those of you worried about your boyfriends/girlfriends? There is a Spanish adage that goes: "Si se quiere ir, como quiera se vas ir." - "If they're going to leave, they'll leave regardless." The more you worry about another person interfering in your relationship, the more you empower them! Focus on your own relationship and address whatever issues WITHIN that relationship.

Any external factors threatening your relationship is really not germane to the internal dynamics that threatens to tear your relationship apart. They are merely tools by which an act is perpetrated.

An old friend is suddenly treating you like crap and defaming you on MySpace? Gasp! Unless you're some sensationalistic attention seeking individual, you should simply step away from that entire mess. If they are capable of doing something that trivial and petty, then you must ask yourself whether they are truly your friend. It is really a matter of simplicity that often gets lost in a web of complexeties.

Someone said something you don't agree with? A simple solution would be to agree to disagree. We are all individual human beings with our own set of emotions, traits, unique qualities, thoughts, and thinking processes. Chances are, you will hold different and often opposite views then another person. Its what makes us so unique and interesting. Imagine a world where we all thought and acted in the same fashion? Pretty dull, I imagine.

Religion and politics [along with a plethora of other issues] are both delicate issues that trigger many reactions. The key? Learn to respond, not react. Why? Because reactions are something triggered by instincts, not logic. We must learn to respect the views and beliefs of others, even if they conflict with our own.

In short and closing, if someone or something on MySpace, Facebook, or any other host of networking site is causing you great discomfort or unnecessary agitation, then you should ask yourself why?

After all, it is -your- space, and much like being in your home, if you cannot be comfortable in your own home then there is something drastically wrong. Take a breathe, and relax. If someone is dogging you on MySpace, who cares?

Now if you see them on the streets, that's a whole entire other matter.

Respectfully,

Luisito / Jiovanni / Pyramid

Please feel free to comment or ask questions. I'm always in the mood for a good [and positive] debate/dialogue.